It has been a crazy week here, all of which kind of hit me like a tonne of bricks on Friday (annoying money issues, over scheduled, health stuff, all at once). That all came to a head when I was told to go to Labour and Delivery triage to get checked out. There were concerns my water had broken or was leaking. Weeeeee.
So, as Pat rushed home from work, I grabbed a bag and threw some stuff in for me and another bag for Liam, just in case. At 29/30 weeks, it was entirely possible things were getting really real, much sooner than expected.
We spent several hours at the hospital, Liam was awesome, Pat was a saint and I was sore and tired. Baby and I are both fine, though they want my OB to keep a close eye on things.
This whole thing really made me realize how close we are to Baby arriving, whether or not we are ready for it. So, I took a close look at my lists and decided it was time to start getting things together. I mentioned this to my girlfriends in my due date group (Hello to my December Buzzle Mamas!) and was asked to share my Hospital Bag check list. I figured some of you may be interested as well! In this case, I am packing with the possibility of a few nights stay in mind. I was woefully unprepared when Liam was born and really wished I had packed more of certain items and waaaay less of others.
I was really impressed by the Triage staff. I have been nervous about this hospital, as it’s where my mother worked for years and years, and I’ve heard they tend to be busy (which sometimes translates to them sending labouring moms to walk around the hospital/hang out somewhere else because they don’t have a spot for them to labour privately). Our nurse, Judy, was awesome. She immediately put me at ease, was great with Liam and with Pat.
We are meeting a good friend of mine this week to see if she might join us as our doula. I’m really really hopeful that she and Pat will hit it off and that we’ll have this extra set of hands as support during this birth. Wish us luck! I can’t believe we are so close to the end already!
What a freaking month. The 2nd Trimester definitely went out with a bang.
A peek at month 6: So, my 6th month started with some bleeding. This, my friends, was not a good start. Baby and I are fine, but it ended up causing a whole bunch of stress. I am RH-. What this means, is if my blood mixes with baby’s, my body will create antibodies to fight the foreign blood, and the baby could be harmed as a result. As with Liam’s pregnancy, I was told to go call in right away if I had spotting, and any more than that, I should go to the ER.
As I am in shared care with my GP and an OB, I first called my OB and found out he was on vacation. His receptionist was awesome and immediately calmed me down. I then gave Triage at the hospital a call, and they told me to rest up. The most they would do at this point is just monitor the heart beat and potentially give an ultrasound. They recommended seeing my own doctor first if I was worried. So, I called the GP and immediately she launched into THIS IS NOT A DRILL! PANIC PANIC PANIC GET THEE TO A HOSPITAL mode. So, I called triage again and they were confused by the freak out. They assured me bleeding is common and because of the small amount, the best thing I could do is rest and monitor baby’s movements from home. They said I could come in any time if I was nervous, but that it wasn’t necessary. So, I stayed home and took some time off work. I had no more bleeding and felt pretty ok, so I figured the situation was resolved.
NOPE! Cue further panic and now anger from GP about the way triage and my OB handled things. I was sent for an ultrasound to make sure everything was ok.
And the ultrasound says….
Though it was a nerve-wracking hour long ultrasound, complete with OB visit due to potential issues, everything looks great. Baby is a big healthy boy. This whole situation made me annoyed at the lack of communication and the varying responses, so I switched to full care with my OB. All of this pretty much spanned the entire month. I just switched to my OB last week.
So, aside from that drama, we finally picked a name (I will refer to Baby as Baby M from now on. The name won’t be announced for a little while. Sorry!) and we started arranging things around the house for baby stuff. The crib is set up in our room.
I was generously gifted a beautiful glider. I have started washing and sorting all the baby clothes. The hospital bag is in the works and I am now working on getting my diapers set up.
Liam and I are currently fighting bad colds, which means no sleep here. I am living in support belts or my ring slings, as my hip, belly, back and pelvic pain is constant now. I am in the process of getting my shots to deal with my RH- status and I am waiting on my glucose test results.
How far along am I right now? 28 weeks. Third trimester just started!!
I am thinking…About everything else we have to arrange. Who will care for Maddie and Cole? When should I start prepping my freezer meal stash?
I am thankful for…The steadfast people in our lives.
I am creating…Nothing. All the stress of month 6 put all of my knitting and crafting aside. Thinking about maybe making a mobile for baby, but that’s about it.
I am going…to lose my mind trying to make it to all of these appointments while also managing a very emotional 3 year old.
I am hoping…that health drama calms down and we finish things out calmly and nicely.
Around the house…The new playroom has been a huge hit! I have sorted out all of the baby clothes into sizes and washed them. I have also organized all of the baby toys we still have from Liam. I am in the process of prepping diapers (My friend S still has a bunch of my stash, but I have been organizing the stuff I do have into sizing, prepping the new stuff, bleaching and washing stuff I have bought second hand or leant out to other friends. Next I will stuff/organize and set up by size).
One of my favorite things…This crazy expensive soda I found at the grocery store. It’s an extra dry vanilla pop. It’s super bubbly, not too sweet and super tasty.
Weight Gain: With all the health stuff, I have lost a bit. I am currently sitting between 15-20lbs
Baby in the Produce World: Baby Centre says baby M is now as big as a large eggplant (at 28 weeks)
Movement/Signs of the Baby: Kiddo really really amped up his movements in month 6. He is an active little dude. Differing than his brother in one way though, instead of hiding when people try to feel him move, he just calms right down and stops moving all together. This means poor Daddy has really only felt the smallest nudge, but that’s it.
Cravings and Aversions: Craving chocolate and sweet things, but that’s about it. Fell in love with Apple Cinnamon Cheerios. Soooooo good. Still hating Jane’s chicken nuggets.
Body Changes/Weirdness: More aches and pains, weird nerve pain in my legs, my calves keep cramping up and baby feels super low a lot.
Other Random Babeh/Pregnancy thoughts: How on earth am I going to manage the sleep deprivation with such an active preschooler?
Where did the summer go? I mean, it’s still 40C out there with the humidex, but I can’t believe it’s already September. I don’t feel like we’ve been busy this summer, and yet it has flown by.
The past few weeks have been a bit tough here. I had some bleeding a couple weeks ago, and so my health team is keeping an eye on things and telling me to “take it easy” (which, you know, with a 3 year old is kind of interesting). There have been some miscommunication and a case of too many cooks I think, so I’m switching from shared care (GP and OB) to just my OB. I won’t lie. I’m a bit stressed about everything right now. I had an appointment this past Thursday, another this Friday and then another two weeks after that. Somewhere in there they want me to get an ultrasound done too. As far as we can tell, baby is fine, but they want to keep a close eye on things.
This, of course, has ramped up project “OMG, time to get ready for baby!”, so I’ve been making lists, researching and started packing our hospital bag. I am mostly freaking out about how Liam will fair during Go Baby! time, but I am telling myself that we have a wonderful group of friends and family who will jump to the rescue whenever we need them. Also, it has helped me think about our birth plan/guidelines this time. Want to see what I’ve come up with? Click to enbiggen.
So, with all of that going on, Liam and I took a week to hang with out friends and do what makes us smile. I booked the week off work and we did what ever felt right. We had a great time visiting parks, friends’ houses, having people over to our place and basically having a staycation. I managed to sneak out with my girlfriends one night and had a great time.
Today we are going to be rearranging our master bedroom to prepare for Baby (I know, I know, 3 months away. Mama needs to nest!). I have been slowly working away on our mountains of laundry and prepping all the baby clothes for his arrival. We maaaaaaaay have agreed on a name, but I’m hesitant to say it’s chosen for sure. It was on our list for Liam, and I had somehow disregarded it this time until Pat brought it up again. It’s not as… unique or historic as I would have liked (RIP Finnigan, River, Rowan, and Ronan; the names that I loved and were vetoed) but I think it works and fits well within the family. If I feel more certain about it, I will share it (with the disclaimer of it being possible that we change our minds when Kiddo arrives and we see if it actually works for him). In the mean time, I am working hard to convince Pat to at least go with some alternative spelling, but I doubt that will come to fruition ;)
Oh, I wanted to add that I’m sorry for the lack of ipsy review this month. With everything going on, I just wasn’t into it. Doesn’t help that my bad this month was incredibly uninspiring and disappointing. Here’s hoping this month is better.
And with that, I am off to make myself a tea. Mama needs all the “get up and go” that she can get.
Man, this whole weeks into months thing is confusing as hell. According to my prenatal journal thingie and some pages on the interwebs, I am now in my 6th month. So, yeah. Guess it’s time for an update?
A peek at month 5: Month 5 wasn’t an easy one. I had a lot of anxiety surrounding the baby (why can’t I feel baby yet? Is baby ok?), and my nausea came back abruptly, joined by heartburn, an eczema flare up, pelvic and hip pain, and insomnia. Weeeee. Oh, and my oven caught fire randomly while I was prepping dinner, causing me a great deal of stress and more strain on our finances. Amazingly, one of my co-workers and good friends saved the day and generously helped us get a new stove! Nesting ramped up, making me desperate to get things started in prepping for baby. Thankfully, it marked hitting the half way point and we also got to find out baby’s sex at an ultrasound! Woo!
And the ultrasound says….
How far along am I right now? 22 weeks, 6 days. In my 6th month.
I am thinking…About baby names! We had River picked out for a girl, but nothing that we both love for a boy! Ruh roh.
I am thankful for…My job and my friends. The amount of kindness, understanding and generosity that they have shown us has been incredible.
I am creating…Started on a little gnome hat, but didn’t enjoy working in such a small gauge. I think I will maybe move on to Elizabeth Zimmerman’s Surprise Baby Jacket and some baby mittens. I am worried In Threes may be a little too femme for a boy. Thoughts?
I am going…to keep working at keeping our house tidy and sorting through our crap. Decluttering is my life.
I am hoping…that we find a name that we both love
Around the house…Even though it technically falls under month 6, I have to talk about it. My dear friend and neighbour, Anna, came over and helped me clean, declutter and organize our entire main floor. We now have a play room where our dining room used to be, a kitchen we can actually use and a family room that doesn’t feel like a bomb exploded. I love it!
One of my favorite things…Cheese and fanta. Don’t judge me.
Weight Gain: More than 20lbs :D
Baby in the Produce World: Baby Centre says baby is as big as spahgetti squash
Movement/Signs of the Baby: A few flutters here and there before the ultrasound. Around week 21 that changed and suddenly I feel more movement and stretching. Baby doesn’t kick and punch like his brother did, but is definitely an active little dude when he wants to be.
Cravings and Aversions: These days I’m craving dairy, mostly cheese. I also find myself craving comfort foods, like soups, stews and chowders. The only new aversion I seem to have is to Jane’s Chicken Nuggets, which happen to be one of the only things Liam will eat. Ugh.
Body Changes/Weirdness: Heartburn, bad eczema, bad hair. Ugh.
Other Random Babeh/Pregnancy thoughts: I am so curious to see what this baby looks like and what his personality is. He seems to be different from his brother already :)
Well, I had the very best of intentions. As it turns out, being pregnant, while working and parenting a preschooler takes a lot of time and weekly updates just aren’t fitting in to our schedule. So, here’s the plan. I will post every month about the pregnancy. Hopefully that’ll work.
A peek at month 4: It was so nice to leave the 1st trimester behind. Thankfully, it meant my 24 hr nausea lessened and I was able to cut my diclectin intake way down. Also, I was able to start drinking a bit of coffee again. Mornings are so much better now. Unfortunately, I don’t have the massive self confidence and body love that I did the first time around. I feel like a bit old lump. Very emotional, tired and sore. Got to meet my OB, and I love him! He is wonderful with Liam and super patient and kind to me. Unfortunately, I had an infection requiring heavy duty antibiotics which are messing with my belly.
Baby attended his/her first concert in utero, as I went to go see Sarah Harmer with some friends for my birthday.
How far along am I right now? 18 weeks, or 5 months.
I am thinking…About whether Jellybean is a boy or a girl (I was convinced baby was a she until last night when I started referring to baby as Little Brother…so confused!). Also thinking about my hospital choice. Hoping I don’t regret it.
I am hoping…that my recent boost of energy isn’t temporary. It feels like mini nesting, and it’s awesome. I love getting stuff done around the house
Around the house…Lots done! Most of the boxes have been gone through, lots of items have been given away or sold.
One of my favorite things…My nalgene water bottle, netflix, my mommy friends.
Weight Gain: 19 lbs. Thanks poutine!
Baby in the Produce World: Baby Centre says baby is as big as a bell pepper
Movement/Signs of the Baby: A little bit here and there. Feels more like butterflies and stretching than kicks.
Cravings and Aversions: Still craving poutine like crazy. Not much else. No major aversions, mostly just textures or smells that turn my stomach. Over cooked noodles, ground beef, etc…
Body Changes/Weirdness: Belly is very different this time around. With Liam, I had a torpedo belly, with everything right in front. This time, it’s more like a tire, all the way around my hips and my belly. Otherwise, I’ve noticed some itchiness on my belly, and my breasts have been incredibly sore off and on.
Other Random Babeh/Pregnancy thoughts: I’m trying very hard to stay positive, but I’m finding my previous experiences still have a hold on me. I worry about my hospital choice, about my care choice, about everything really. I hope I can pull off a VBAC.
Now that I have rounded the corner on the 1st trimester, I think I will start trying to do weekly updates, like I did with Liam. In the mean time, here is how things have been going the last few months:
A peek at the past 3 Months: This pregnancy has been so strange so far. So very different from my pregnancy with Liam. I have constant sickness, requiring medication. I am exhausted most of the time. Thankfully, I can nap when Liam naps, so I get about 2 hrs of sleep during the day. Pregnancy Insomnia has started this past week, so I doubly need my nap.
I have felt one “kick” or body slam, which helps me connect with the wee Jelly Bean. Because of the rollercoaster of confirming this pregnancy, I am having a hard time accepting that I am actually pregnant. I have no inclination as to whether Bean is a boy or a girl, though I’m leaning towards girl because of a dream I had when I was pregnant with Liam. We will find out at the end of July.
How far along am I right now? 13 weeks, 2 days.
I am thinking…How this is going to be our last pregnancy and that I should be enjoying it more, and remembering more of the details, but it’s all going by in a blur.
I am thankful for… Diclectin, popcicles, consignment stores and that my preschooler naps.
I am creating…I just finished my pride shawl (Daybreak/Gaybreak). It just needs a bath and some blocking. I will share the FO soon. Started on In Threes as well, in yarn left over from Liam’s Gramps.
I am going…to be very busy this week! Pat has surgery on Thursday, my birthday is Friday as well as my next prenatal appointment. Saturday I’m seeing Sarah Harmer live with some friends
I am hoping…That we can figure out a way for me to have a doula
Around the house…Lots of work to do. We have emptied out the storage unit and now have a million boxes and a ton of clutter to contend with.
One of my favorite things…Maternity Jeans. Seriously.
Weight Gain: Total, about 4lbs.
Baby in the Produce World: Baby Centre says she’s as long as a peapod
Movement/Signs of the Baby: Very little at this point, aside from the ultrasound we had at 6 weeks. I think I felt her body slam me once, but that’s it and it could have been gas.Cravings and Aversions: My biggest craving right now is chocolate and poutine. This baby has good taste. As for aversions, chicken. Especially chicken breasts. Bleh. And coffee. Yep. This kid has made me drop my beloved coffee cold turkey. I had no intention of quitting caffeine, but apparently Jelly Bean had other ideas. I’m only now starting to be able to enjoy tea in the morning. One cup, no more. Dairy has been problematic too. No cereal with milk, no cheese on its own, butter is being replaced with coconut oil.
Body Changes/Weirdness: I started showing very early. I’m probably about as big now as I was at 20 weeks with Liam. I have very sore and very dark nipples this time, and more severe round ligament pain. Yesterday, while knitting, pregnancy carpeltunnel hit hard in my left hand. Fuuuuun. Also, there is no glowing with this pregnancy. My hair is frizznormous, my skin is both dry and breaking out in terrible cystic acne.
Other Random Babeh/Pregnancy thoughts: It is a completely different experience working in a maternity store during pregnancy, as opposed to an office with someone who is very sensitive to anything baby related. People are so genuinely excited for me, and love talking babies. It’s so liberating and so much more positive.
It is my third Mother’s Day. The day itself isn’t really a big deal in our house. My family does a pretty good job of making me feel appreciated and loved without a hallmark holiday. That said, I am always fond of a day where flowers and cards are encouraged. This year is even more special. I got one hell of a gift.
Yes! We are expecting a Yule baby!
So, why has the last few weeks been difficult? Well, on top of everything you read here, we’ve been having a crazy time leading up to this good news.
Back in March, I found I was feeling incredibly run down and sick all the time. I went to see my dr to see if there was something going on. While waiting for results, I decided to take a pregnancy test to see if maybe that was the cause of my troubles. This started a very confusing and difficult few weeks for us. You see, some pregnancy tests were coming back positive (yay!), but others were negative (huh?). My dr informed me that it looked like I was having an early miscarriage and blood tests confirmed. Time passed and I still felt pregnant, and the miscarriage didn’t come. It was a rollercoaster. We were afraid to feel anything, because the future felt like a massive unknown.
Easter weekend came and nothing changed. So, I tested again and it came back positive. My dr sent me for more tests and this time, we were confused and excited to get a very strong positive! Because of everything that happened, we were still very cautious. We also had no idea when I was due, because my cycle had been hugely wonky. My dr. sent me for an ultrasound this past week to confirm everything was looking good and the result was good!
I am excited to share this journey with you. I am nervous about going from one to two, but I can’t wait to bring another little one into our family. Morning Sickness has been brutal this time around, and my energy is pretty much non-existent. I hope to get posting more regularly again, but I can’t promise. I am now medicated, which is helping immensely, but I am still having a hard time. Thankfully, I live in a world of netflix and diclectin.
So, happy Mother’s Day to me, and to you, fellow mamas.