Depression, Single Mama

Surviving the Crisis

When my life came crashing down last summer, I went into my now very familiar Crisis Mode. I was in shock. I was in incredible pain and absolute disbelief. I wasn’t sure what to do with myself or how to get through the day. It occured to me later to write down the things that helped, so that maybe I could share it and help someone else.

This is a picture from right in the middle of that time. It’s raw. It’s difficult for me to look at. I still feel that pain, and I can recognize the heart break and disbelief in my eyes.

I want to be clear, when I talk about the things that got me through this crisis, I’m not talking about the things that “fixed” anything. I’m talking about the little things that kept me afloat when all I wanted to do was drown. I’m still working on getting out of the water.

Mindless Distraction. I needed something to take me out of the moment, especially when I found everything to be really overwhelming. Fluffy silly beach reads, funny shows that I could pick up and drop in a second, youtube makeup tutorials, and one that truly got my head out of the moment, a ridiculous bubble popping phone game app. Bubble Witch 3 was my personal favourite. Requires enough focus to get your mind off of the badness, while being simple and silly enough not to require too much attention or effort. Get it here for Android and here for Apple.

Support System. This is the time to shine that bat signal, call in your girls, your family, whoever you can trust and be honest with. You need to tell someone what’s going on and don’t sugar coat it. You need someone who can check in on you, get you out into the world again, or bring you food when you just want to cry. I also found it to be very empowering to join Single Mom and divorced parents groups on facebook so that I could hear from people who knew what I was going through.

Motivation and Understanding. I found it incredibly helpful to read up on the process, to see related quotations and to listen to podcasts related to what I was going through. I saved a ton of motivational quotations on pinterest (My boards can be found here , here and here). I also completely fell in love with Alone: A Love Story, a CBC podcast. Retweet, share to your stories, post lyrics. Whatever you need to do to feel understood and heard.

Music Soothes the Soul, music has always been a major factor in every single one of my life events, good and bad. This was no different. I found that some days I wanted to sob uncontrollably to the soundtrack of my heartbreak. Other days, I wanted Lizzo to build me back up. Sometimes, I needed hard rock to work through my anger. I got myself a spotify account and made playlists for my needs. I have a Ouch Feels playlist, an Empower playlist, a playlist of soothing faves, an Angsty playlist when I want to scream EFF YOU JERK. It truly helps. I will say that sometimes you need to avoid certain songs to feel ok, and that fine. I still can’t listen to any of “Our Songs”.

It’s Ok to be A Cliche. There are so many cliches about getting through the crisis of a breakup. I lived so many of them. Some of them helped, some of them didn’t, but I found comfort in trying. I got a piercing, I dyed my hair, I got a tattoo, I gained weight and then loss some and then stopped caring, I dated, I had casual fun, I drank, I ate, I did what I wanted, when I wanted. I needed to take some time to spoil myself, to take care of myself and to be reckless for a bit. So long as you have good people around you to keep you from going too far, and you don’t hurt anyone or yourself, have fun. On the other side of the coin, it’s ok to cry, to spend time alone, to be angry, to be sad, to let things go a bit. Just remember that you have a life to live, and as tempting as it is to get lost in the fun or the sad, it will do more harm than good. Moderation, my friends. Moderation.

Alright friends, that’s it for now. I have a kid to play with and some lunch to make. I hope this post helps someone get through the initial crisis so that you can start working towards healing. I have more to add, but perhaps I’ll save that for next time.

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Where I’ve Been

It’s crazy to think it’s been 6 months since I last posted. I guess I just didn’t feel like I could post without talking more about what’s been going on and I just wasn’t prepared to do that yet.

Honestly, not much has changed since my last post. The divorce is a slow and painful process. We are no where near done yet. I’m still in the house with my ex, the boys, and my ex’s girlfriend. I don’t recommend this arrangement, but it has been what’s best due to our financial situation. I’ve learned a lot about myself during this year and one of those things is that I don’t respect or enforce my own boundaries, which is something I’m working on. I’ve done some counselling which is helping me to see that I have work to do and why it’s important.

As you can imagine, this hasn’t been a great year for my mental health. Despite being medicated for the last 5 years or so, I have been struggling. There have been some dangerous lows. Again, counselling has helped and the medication has truly been a life saver, but it is still a daily struggle.

Depression is a sneaky lying bastard. One of its many tricks is making you so tired and blah that you lose passion and interest in the things you once loved. I haven’t been bullet journaling, I haven’t been playing with makeup…hell, I haven’t been doing much of anything. I’m really working hard to change this, but it’s a process.

The boys are doing ok, considering everything. They are now aware of our split and are handling it surprisingly well. Mason is 3 and talking up a storm. He’s in Tiny Tigers karate and is obsessed with paw patrol and pj masks. Liam is 7 and loves Steven Universe and youtube, as well as karate.

Looking back at last June, I was living a whole different life. I knew things weren’t ok, but I was too afraid to confront it. I lived in ignorance, by choice. I was hurting, sad and scared. Now I can at least say that I am no longer choosing to live in the dark. My life, from here on out, will exist in the open. I no longer choose to fool myself. Things are hard, but they are honest. They are real. That, in and of itself, is so incredibly freeing.

I am dating and meeting new people. I have a really great set of friends, with the same core of besties (my sister, as well as my sisters from other misters, Sarah and Leigh), and I’ve been forcing myself to get out and do things on my own and really push past my anxiety and comfort zone.

I no longer get Boxycharm or Fab Fit Fun, so I don’t have much regular makeup content to share. Being in the middle of this divorce is expensive and I’m still at home with Mason, so funds are beyond limited. Maybe once I’m settled into a new life and career I’ll come back to it.

For those of you that have stuck around, thank you. I do plan on posting more, sharing tidbits of my life as a single mom, a woman dating in her late 30s, and as someone healing from emotional trauma and divorce.

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2019

The new year. A new beginning, full of opportunities.

2018 was intense. So much so in fact that some of it is a blur to me. It was one of the hardest years of my life. I have thought about making a post a thousand times and even now that I’m here, typing, I have no idea what to say or how to start.

At the end of the summer, my marriage ended. It was such a monumental thing that it is still on going. I’m still in the depths of it. I’m not going to discuss the hows and the whys right now, or maybe even ever, but it has shaken me to my very core and I have been trying to put one foot in front of the other ever since. The kids don’t know, and won’t until things are sorted and basically done, which makes it even harder. We are cohabitating by necessity, which as you can imagine, is not an easy thing.

Through all of this, I saw many people leave my life. It’s strange how some friendships can’t survive hardships. On the other hand, I’ve also had some relationships strengthen and become a lifeline for me. I’ve had some friendships renew and become even stronger than ever before. The people who love me and support me through this are truly lifesavers and family to me.

I have also been given some amazing opportunities. I was in a commercial for a skincare line I truly love and support. While I struggle with some self-love and body acceptance, I have had trouble celebrating how I look in it, but have decided to share it anyway because I am proud.

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Heather sits in a chair against a white backdrop. She is wearing a plum shirt and neutral makeup with her hair half up and long bangs framing her face.

I had a friend who didn’t know about the campaign DM me on instagram asking if I had just been on a commercial on youtube. I think it was pretty surreal for both of us.

Another big thing that 2018 brought was my love for bullet journaling and drawing. I really have tried to use my bujo as a way to bring peace, gratitude, organization, and creativity into my life. If anyone is interested, I have lots of pages and spreads on my instagram. I would also be happy to write a post about BuJo and Art journaling if there is interest. I want to try to get back into reviewing makeup too but I am taking baby steps back into blogging. I hope you all understand.

So, now that you know where I’ve been, I want to take this opportunity to thank you for reading, for visiting my humble little home on the internet and for being patient with me while I try to find my way back to myself and through the journey of being a single mom.

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The Review that I almost skipped: February Boxycharm and March Spoiler

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Hey folks,

How are you doing? Can you believe it’s freaking March already?! I can’t. Honestly, because of how fast time is going, this review almost didn’t happen. Shortly after getting our shipping notification from Boxy last month, I got an email stating that all of the Canadian boxes had been held by customs and that we should expect a delay of about a week. As a result of this, I didn’t get the box until the middle of the third week of February. I normally don’t like to post a review of something you can’t get, so I was planning on skipping February all together.

Buuuuut, I figure that all of these things can be purchased from the brands individually, so even if you can’t get this box itself, if something catches your eye you can still buy it. So, here we go!

Don’t know what Boxycharm* is? Well, it’s the best subscription box out there. For 21USD a month, you get a guaranteed 4-5 full sized or deluxe samples from amazing brands valued at a minimum of 100USD. This post is in no way sponsored. I pay for my own box.

Theme: Galaxy Glow

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Naked Cosmetics Holographic Highlight Palette (40USD)

Firstly, as Simply Nailogical has taught us, this is not holo. It is super cute though.

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You get 6 different shades of duochrome highlighter in this palette, some being more out there, like green and blue, and others a bit more wearable like the pinks. The quality of these is pretty good. I did find them a tiny bit chunky. They go on pretty sheer and can be built up. Unfortunately though, because I’m so fair and pretty conservative in my highlighter preferences, I don’t really see myself getting much use out of this on my cheeks.

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I also tried it on my eyes and found it very pretty. Something in the formula doesn’t like me though, and immediately triggered an eczema flair up on my lid. Sadly, I’ll be passing this on I think

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I used a mix of the pinks and purples as my highlight.

Seraphine Botanicals Lemon+Sugar Moisturizing Lip Buffer (24USD)

Sugar scrubs are nice to have this time of year, however I’ve had mix luck with them in the past as they tend to get everywhere and aggravate my eczema. I liked the scent and taste of this buffer, and really loved how moisturized it made my lips, but it really didn’t have enough grit to it to really exfoliate much. I wish it didn’t have any sugar at all and was just a lip oil.

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Vintage Black Eyeliner (21USD)

I have been pretty curious about this brand, so I was excited to see this in February’s boxycharm. My local winners carries a few items by Vintage and I’ve never had the nerve to pick them up to try. I tend to prefer mechanical style eyeliner pencils, but this is really nice. It goes on smoothly, without tugging. It’s not the blackest black ever, but it’s nice. I did notice that when I wore it on my tightline it did transfer down a bit, so keep that in mind. It’s decent, but not the best. I will keep using it though.

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Cover FX – Shimmer Veil in Amethyst (28USD)

I was so excited for this one! I love Cover FX as a brand and I really wanted to try one of these liquid eyeshadow/glitter things. I love how the colour looked in the tube and couldn’t wait to put it on the eyes.

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I tried this product two ways. The first way, I wore this was as a bit of a toned down halo eye, with the shimmer veil as a pop in the center of the lid. This was definitely my favourite way to wear this product. It applied to a smaller area really easily and I was able to use my fingers to quickly blend out the edges without much fussing.

The second way, I put it all over the lid as the main colour. I found it a bit difficult to get even colour and shine over a larger area, though I was able to blend out the edges easily without glitter fall out or it chunking off.

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I really like this product. It’s pretty, shiny and fun for a pop of brightness. I will definitely use it again.

Crown Brush – Pro Brush Trio (30USD)

I was so happy to find three brushes in this box. Look wise, they remind me a lot of the wet n wild brushes. The bristles are very soft and feels nice on the skin. The two face brushes aren’t my favourites, simply because they aren’t the size and shape I normally go for. The tulip shaped brush is decent for setting under the eyes and the other one worked ok for contour.

The one that I did like was the smallest of the three. The smaller brush was good for applying eyeshadow, and I like it quite a bit for creamy products like the Colourpop shadows or for blending out the edges of the Cover FX Glimmer Veil.

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Overall, this was a pretty decent box. I’ll definitely get use out of the Glimmer Veil, the eyeliner and at least one of the brushes. Definitely worth the cost of the box. Also, I think this is the first time that I’ve seen the theme matching the products! Well done Boxycharm*!

I’m extremely excited for this month’s box. I’ve seen a few spoilers and cannot wait to get my hands on it.

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Also, they’ve removed the waitlist for a limited time!  Now would be a good time to try it out :)

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REVIEW: January 2018 Boxycharm

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Happy New Year everyone! Here is my January Boxycharm review! Don’t know what Boxycharm* is? Well, it’s the best subscription box out there. For 21USD a month, you get a guaranteed 4-5 full sized or deluxe samples from amazing brands valued at a minimum of 100USD. This post is in no way sponsored. I pay for my own box.

Now, on to the box!

Theme: Rock 2018

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Grande Cosmetics – GrandeLIPS Hydrating Lip Plumper in Taro (27 USD)

I wasn’t sure about this product but was more than willing to give it a try. Seeing as how it’s January in Ontario, I welcome anything that promises to hydrate my poor lips. I’m really not sure about the plumping effects as I’ve only recently started using this. It doesn’t hurt to use, but rather just has a mild minty tingle. The glossiness of the product does make your lips look nice and juicy, but I’m not sure it’s any more than that. As for hydration, I do find that this has helped my lips. I was pretty chapped before starting to use this at least twice a day and now my lips are in better shape. I don’t love the colour, It’s a mauvey purple shade, which isn’t super flattering on my pale lips on its own.

Dr. Brandt Pores No More Luminizing Primer (38 USD)

Ah, this one is a heart breaker. I really love the way it feels on the skin and how my foundation wears on top of it, but after trying this I had the worst break out of my life. It’s the only new complexion product so I’m pretty sure it’s the culprit. Sadly, I’m not willing to risk that again.

It Cosmetics Brow Power Universal Eyebrow Pencil (24 USD)

I first tried this pencil way back in 2015 and was surprised at how much I loved it. I still really enjoy it, though there are a few draw backs. I’m not convinced that this is truly a universal shade. I really only wear it when I want a bolder brow as it is definitely more brown than taupe/blonde. I do enjoy the cool tone of it, and how smoothly it applies. The shade of the lead itself makes it easy to do thin strokes as well as quick filling in. The spoolie is great too. The thing that bugs me about it is that no matter if I retract the “lead” it gets stuck on the lid and falls out. It has happened with a couple of these now, so it’s an issue with the product.

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PUR Cosmetics Bronze and Brighten Cheek Palette (34 USD)

I was excited about this palette in theory but a unsure when I opened it up. Each shade is shimmery and intense looking, which isn’t what I go for with my bronzer or blushes generally. I was pleasantly surprised to find that with a careful hand, these wear beautifully. The blush is intense so I prefer using a really feathery stippling brush with a tiny bit of product. The bronzer is similar, but when sheered out, it’s lovely and warm. The highlight is a show stopper. It is STUNNING. A beautiful warm golden high light while still being reflective and light enough to glow on my fair skin. These honestly swatch more like eyeshadows and I would say are the most pigmented things I’ve swatched from this box…

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Crown Pro Glam Metals Palette (25USD)

ANOTHER PALETTE?! Damn Boxycharm, you are on a roll. I was intrigued when I saw pictures of this palette online in spoilers. Something a lot of people were commenting on was how six of the shades seemed to have twins. By that, I mean that there are three repeated shades here, which is pretty substantial in a palette of only 9 shades.

I was pretty excited about the green and the gold shades which have been my jam lately. While the colours are pretty, I find that they have really poor lasting power. They fade quite a bit within an hour or two of wear. Also, even with super careful application, finger or brush, they have LOTS of fall out so be sure to use them before doing your face or with shadow guards.

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As you can see, the silvery blues are very similar and all of those warm tones are pretty close too. The black is super sheer and more of a charcoal.

Overall Impression: I enjoyed this box, I really liked the lip plumper, eyebrow pencil and the face palette. The eyeshadows and primer will be passed on to someone else, but I still feel like I got my money’s worth.

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REVIEW: December 2017 Boxycharm

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Happy Holidays everyone! I am so happy that Boxycharm sent out my box a bit earlier than normal so that I’ve had time to try everything before posting. Don’t know what Boxycharm* is? Well, it’s the best subscription box out there. For 21USD a month, you get a guaranteed 4-5 full sized or deluxe samples from amazing brands valued at a minimum of 100USD.

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Theme: Glitz and Glam, definitely appropriate for the holidays. Makes me think of glitter and metallics! Which, in typical boxycharm fashion, is completely unrelated to the contents of the box.

From what I understand, there were a few different versions of the box this month (which doesn’t happen often here in Canada, normally Canadian subscribers all get the same variation). My box variation is #1 (found on the bottom right corner of your box description card). So, here’s what I got this month.

Real Her Blush Kit (32USD)

This is a cute baked blush trio in a cute white box. The tones are nice, with one being rosy (but glittery), a peach and one that’s sort of bronzy. They all have a sheen so if matte blushes are your thing, you will not be for you. Because these blushes are baked, they have a pretty dry texture. I don’t mind, but I know I’ve heard some people are not loving it. I found that I didn’t need to be super careful with these are they aren’t super pigmented. Again, I’m fine with this because I don’t love blushes that are intense. I’d much rather layer to get the payoff I want. While I liked these, I don’t love how the shimmer made my pores stand out and I find the price really high for this product, especially when I love my essence or wet n wild blushes more, at a fraction of the price.  Overall, it’s fine, and I’ll use it, but I wouldn’t buy it at it’s asking price. 20171217_103549

Bellapierre Pro Concealer Palette (29.99USD)

Ok, I would call this a colour correcting palette, as no one is going to use this as just concealer. I was not happy to get this. I don’t use colour correctors anymore and these palettes tend to either be really dry or really greasy. The colours themselves seemed really dark and intense, which doesn’t really work for a fair skinned girl like me. On first touch, this was definitely on the greasier side of things. Thankfully, though, it wasn’t a thick formula and I was really able to control the amount of product I picked up on my finger. I used the orange colour under my eyes, the purple on my cheeks and chin and the green on my breakouts. I blended it out a bit and then layered foundation on top. Here’s what I found:

The orange actually worked really well to deal with my dark circles. I was amazed. I didn’t use any concealer on top and didn’t feel like I needed it. The green was meh. It toned down some of the redness but didn’t last long, especially on the blemishes that were a bit more raised and angry. The purple was also meh. I have some sallowness on my shin and cheeks from medication I used to use for my eczema. It brightened it a bit but didn’t eliminate it all together. Over all, I’m still not excited about this product. I’m glad that it’s a mineral rich formula that’s good for the skin, but I don’t see myself reaching for it. Again, I wouldn’t buy it on my own, outside from Boxycharm.

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Pretty Vulgar My Lips are Sealed Lightweight Liquid Lipstick in Weeping Willow. (24USD)

When I saw I was getting this shade I was annoyed. I seem to be getting a lot of the brown shades, which isn’t exactly my typical go to colour. In swatch photos online, it seemed to be a grey brown metallic with a silver shimmer. I was pleasantly surprised when the box arrived to find that it was actually more of a bronze colour, which is way more wearable and flattering on my skin tone. The formula is creamy and not at all drying, but it isn’t a matte lippie and is definitely not smudge proof. I did find that it lasted a while. I’m not sure I would wear this on it’s own, but I think it is pretty as lip topper in the center of the lip to add some juiciness.

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The one thing I did notice is that there was some wierd… I dunno, pulling? Gooping?  between your top and bottom lip when you open your mouth while wearing this. It looks gross, though I didn’t notice it feeling heavy, over applied or sticky.

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Tarte Tarteist Lash Paint Mascara (23USD)

Ah, my saving grace. This mascara made the whole box worth it. I received a sample of this a while back and fell in love. I was thrilled to receive a full size in this month’s box. Honestly, I would buy this on my own and seeing as how this was basically the cost of the box, I’m happy. I find this mascara gives me good length and volume and works well on both the top and bottom lashes.

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Crown Brush Deluxe Blush Brush (12USD)

I really like this brush. I love the handle and the divots for your fingers and how soft the bristles are. I wouldn’t use it for blush, myself, but I think it would be great for contour or blending out creams. I find it too dense for powder blushes. I look forward to playing with this more.

Overall Impression:

Feeling kind of meh about most of the stuff in the box. Most of it I wouldn’t have purchased on my own. Glad that the brush and mascara were there to make it worth while.

Before any product, aside from moisturizer and primer:

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REVIEW: November 2017 Boxycharm

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Hi everyone!

I have a lot of thoughts about Boxycharm* this month. Don’t know what Boxycharm* is? Well, it’s the best subscription box out there. For 21USD a month, you get a guaranteed 4-5 full sized or deluxe samples from amazing brands valued at a minimum of 100USD. Yep. It’s pretty rad.

So,  let’s start with the November box and then go from there.

The theme this month: Sweater Weather

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Luxie Beauty Quad Eye Travel Set (32USD)

Oh man, I was excited for this. I had received a Luxie brush in an ipsy bag a couple years ago and still love it. This is a travel set, so while the brushes themselves are full sizes, the handles are shorter than normal, so it does take some getting used to. The bristles are super soft and each brush does a great job. I can’t believe they gave us four brushes! Exciting!

Cover FX Illuminating Setting Spray (31USD)

Another item I’m excited about. With my dry skin, I am always drawn to illuminating products. This is especially well timed because I just ran out of my current favourite setting spray by Pixi. The spray is incredibly fine. You can barely feel it it’s so fine. There is a very itty bitty fine glitter in this spray, so be sure to really shake this baby really well. If you don’t, you may find you end up with big glitter chunks on your cheek. It gets rid of any powdery look you may have and really sets everything down. I haven’t played with it enough to tell if it really helps make my makeup last but I’ll report back if I do notice anything significant. I love the glow it leaves, though I can see some people not being into the glitter. For me, I really have to get up close and in there to see anything, but this may not be your setting spray if the idea of spraying glitter on your face is horrifying.

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KNC Beauty Collagen Lip Mask (15USD for 3)

Ok, so, I’m one of those people that love the whole masking experience but aren’t really sure there is much real benefit to doing them. This is especially the case for weird masks like this one. I have insanely dry lips with eczema around them. I didn’t think this lip mask was going to do much for me, and I was right. While it was fun to use, it did sting while it was on. The serum is really runny and wet, so I ended up dumping it everywhere when I opened the package. Because it’s so thin, it didn’t feel like it really stayed where it was supposed to be long enough to really be effective. Will I use the rest of these? Sure. Do I expect any results? No.

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LAQ A &CO Cloud lips in Storm (17USD)

I was intrigued by this when I pulled it out of the box. I ended up with the darker wine shade and was fine with that. I’ve been digging the moody dark colours lately. The item is described as long wearing and matte, so I had high hopes. Sadly, this was just a mess. It applied very sheer and patchy, almost like a balm. Because of the shape and size, I found it really difficult to get a precise application, which is a pain in the butt with such a dark colour. I really had to layer it up to get decent coverage and found it never set down in any way. It moved around and even after blotting, it transferred quite a bit. I didn’t find it matte at all, and don’t see myself reaching for this.

 

Winky Lux Kitten Palette (25USD)

A palette. Another freaking palette!!! I am so pleased by this. Firstly, the colours are really pretty and perfect for winter. Secondly, the packaging is super cute though it does lack a mirror. I’m fine with that considering how affordable this is. I did a couple of looks with the palette and then swatched it, so I have a pretty solid impression of it now. First, here are the swatches I did:

So, off the bat, I’ll say I’m impressed with the formula, especially considering how affordable this palette is. The mattes aren’t too sheer or chalky, and they apply pretty smoothly. The shimmers are pretty but I will say that they get chunky easily and may need some work for blending. You can really see the chunks in the browny bronze and gold shades. I like the colours that were included here. There’s a light matte, a transition shade, and a couple of darker colours for deepening. The shimmers are pretty and make this palette pretty versatile.

And now for the looks:

I had to play with the gorgeous gold shade, so it is the colour on the lid here. Next tme I would use it wet and put it on a glitter glue I think, as I found it didn’t have the umph I was expecting. Definitely use your fingers or a wet brush with the shimmers.

The shimmery pink shade on the top row was a nice surprise. It gave a really cool inner corner glow that I didn’t expect. Dipping into these colours, I saw a lot of fallout. The palette got dirty pretty quickly. When applying, I ended up with quite a bit of fallout on my cheekbones and undereyes, especially with the darker mattes. Keep this in mind and maybe do your eyes first when using this.

I was really excited to do this second look, especially after watching the Boxycharm instagram live using this palette. For this one, the star of the show was the gorgeous duochrome pink/mint shade in the middle row. I used this all over the lid and LOVE it. One thing I noticed here, however, was that when I really packed that shade on, I ended up with literal chunks on my eyelid. I really had to blend things out to get them smooth again. BTW, I’m wearing the LAQ A & Co Cloud lip here.

Overall, I would be happy paying 25 for this palette, so I have to say I am super pleased with this month’s box. A definite win, Boxy!

Now, on to something that I’m not happy about. Some of you may have heard about something new Boxycharm was going to try out. They were talking about it a lot on their social media and that seemed to get the hype going. I’m talking about their winter limited edition box.

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So, where as the normal box offers 4-5 products worth a minimum of 100USD for 21USD, the Limited Edition box promised 8 items from prestige brands at a value of 200USD for 45USD. Boxy decided to do a preorder. They intended on sending out a link with tracking for the November box but the link got posted online early. Despite not knowing what was going to be included, and at a complete shock to Boxycharm, people went NUTS when this was released. The site crashed and the box sold out immediately.

People were pissed, many people freaked out because non-members were able to purchase and a lot of people ended up with multiple boxes by accident due to site glitches and on purpose because no limits were set.

So, my reaction to this was “Well, it’s a good deal but at the end of the day, it’s just makeup. Hopefully Boxy is better prepared next time.” Unfortunately, a lot of people disagreed and felt personally let down by Boxy because…I just don’t know. In the interest of full disclosure, my sister bought herself and me a box. We were both super excited that she was able to get through.

Anyway, we have all just found out through this notice that the company had a plan to deal with this.

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THIS I have an issue with. I don’t really care so much about my box, though now I won’t be able to review those products for the blog.

My issue comes from from my extensive background in customer service and retail. I understand how this was a really tough situation to be in, however this reaction is not cool to me for a couple of reasons. Firstly, unless you clearly set a preorder limit of one box per customer or Boxy subscribers only, it doesn’t really seem to fair to impose those limitations AFTER the fact because you sold out quicker than you expected.

Selling out is good. Look at the trends of limited edition items in the beauty industry right now. Look at Kylie. Limited access is a thing, and selling out is the goal. If you want EVERY charmer to have one, then don’t make a limited edition box.

They always have a wait list going, so I don’t think losing a few subscribers would do any significant harm. Especially when these unsubscribers are likely to freak out over something else down the line and unsubscribe then anyway. Boxycharm responded very politely and very well on social media, so I don’t think anyone with any ounce of logic or chill would still be so upset as to dump the box now.

There are people out there who bought extras as a gift for friends or family and this would have been a great way to introduce boxy to new clients. I get being afraid of losing subscribers, but they are running that risk now by altering orders now and risk losing those potential new customers as well.

I dunno, the whole thing is nuts. I’m just shaking my head and hoping that all this drama calms down because I just want to try out awesome products and write about them. What are your thoughts about the limited edition box insanity? Do you agree with boxy’s solution?